“The consequence, as psychologist Carol Dweck’s work makes clear, is that feedback on our work gets processed as feedback on our worth. We weren’t trained to separate the two.”
That part!! Feedback to me on anything is processed as feedback on my worth. I take it in but don’t let it stay in then process as it as feedback on the work. Nothing more nothing less. Thankfully, I no longer stay in that first step of processing.
Yesssss - It takes so much conscious repetition to get ourselves out of that cycle of internalizing feedback as value instead of just information that we can choose to use or not. So happy for you getting your story out into the world.
“The consequence, as psychologist Carol Dweck’s work makes clear, is that feedback on our work gets processed as feedback on our worth. We weren’t trained to separate the two.”
That part!! Feedback to me on anything is processed as feedback on my worth. I take it in but don’t let it stay in then process as it as feedback on the work. Nothing more nothing less. Thankfully, I no longer stay in that first step of processing.
I submitted my book to be featured in an online and print magazine and it was selected as one of the books of the month. https://heyzine.com/flip-book/3babcb1d5c.html#page/1
Yesssss - It takes so much conscious repetition to get ourselves out of that cycle of internalizing feedback as value instead of just information that we can choose to use or not. So happy for you getting your story out into the world.