Become a Boundary Boss: Fend Off Energy Vampires and Reclaim Your Spark! ⚡️
Inner Fire Series Week 5 and an exciting announcement!
Hey Uplifters!
Big announcement before we get into this week’s uplifting ((work)). Our first official Uplifters Retreat is coming to the beautiful southern Catskills in Bethel, NY on October 25-27, 2024.
Over one transformative weekend, you’ll:
✨Recharge your mind, body, and soul
💆🏽♀️Relax with luxurious wellness amenities
⚡️Recenter your priorities and goals
🧘🏼♀️Reconnect with your deepest passion and learn how to use my Precision Manifesting techniques to create your next chapter
Luxury accommodations, healthy gourmet meals, wine, and all activities are included in the pricing. You can read more about it here.
With only 8 spots available, this retreat is sure to sell out fast! If you’re interested in joining us or learning more, just reply to this email or message me here.
Okay, back to our regularly scheduled programming: How's your energy today, friend? Sparky? Blah? Totally tapped?
In my Daily Practice Survey, in which I surveyed almost 1000 Uplifters about how they spend their time, I asked folks to rank their satisfaction across ten life domains - from relationships to personal freedom. Guess what? Energy levels came in dead last. Only about 30% of us are even moderately satisfied with our energy. Yikes!
As we dive into a new season (hello, changing routines and endless daylight), it's prime time to ponder what fills our tanks and what leaves us running on fumes. So, let's chat about becoming a certified Boundary Boss and showing those pesky energy vampires the door!
Energy Vampire Identification 101:
Ever feel like you need a nap after hanging out with certain people? Congrats! You've just spotted an energy vampire in their natural habitat. These crafty creatures come in many forms:
1. The Chronic Complainer: Nothing's ever right in their world.
2. The Drama Llama: Every molehill is Mount Everest.
3. The Guilt Tripper: Masters of the subtle art of emotional manipulation.
4. The Interrupter: Your thoughts? Pshh, who needs 'em?
5. The "Just One More Thing" Asker: Boundaries? Never heard of 'em.
Becoming a Boundary Boss:
Time to channel your inner superhero and protect that precious energy of yours! Here are some tricks to try:
1. The Polite Pause: When vampires start their spiel, take a beat. Breathe. Then redirect the convo or make your exit.
2. The Broken Record: Repeat your boundary calmly and consistently. "I understand, but I can't take that on right now."
3. The Energy Shield: Visualize a force field around you, deflecting negative vibes. Sounds woo-woo, but it works!
4. The Time Cap: Set a limit for draining interactions. "I've got 10 minutes to chat, then I need to run!"
5. The Gratitude Flip: For every complaint, mention something positive. It's like garlic to vampires!
Now, let's supercharge your energy with this quick exercise:
Energy Audit Technique (5 minutes or less!)
List five things that lift your energy (habits, relationships, thoughts, etc).
List five things that deplete your energy.
Reflect: What does this tell you about how you spend your days?
How can you get more lifts and fewer drags?
Set a goal to actively experiment with your energy this month. What works? What doesn't?
Becoming a Boundary Boss is a practice, not a perfect. Be patient with yourself as you flex those "no" muscles and reclaim your spark. You've got this!
Now, go forth and zap those energy vampires! And hey, if you discover any particularly effective vampire-repelling techniques, share 'em with the class. We're all in this energy-preserving business together!
Listen to how lyricist and author says “yes” and “no”
This is part six of a 10-part series on Burnout.
In part one, you’ll assess your current burnout risk and learn the costs and symptoms of burnout. In part two, you’ll learn a clarifying technique for deciding what to say yes and no to. In part three, you’ll learn an easy trick for boosting your energy. In part four, I share an experiment you can run to understand what’s getting in the way of your progress. In part five, you can learn how to identify and adjust your time mindset. Stay tuned for the rest of our series, where we will cover:
Stress Detox: Mindfulness, relaxation, and coping skills
Boundary Buddies: Cultivating encouragement and accountability
Doing it is Crushing it: Recognizing progress + self-compassion
Hotter Every Day: Long-term fire-tending strategies
Follow me on Instagram and LinkedIn for lots more stories of courageous Uplifters and simple strategies for keeping your inner fire burning hot.
Your Next Uplifter
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