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Last week was a lot.
We went to two funerals that dredged up surprising new layers of grief over losing my grandmother last year. We moved our firstborn off to college. We celebrated my mother’s 75th birthday. My brother’s neighborhood in Kauai got pummeled by a storm that swept away so many of his belongings, and then we held our breath as the forest near his house went up in flames four days later. The chapter I was working on for my book felt like an indecipherable puzzle. Meanwhile, the regular things like work and cooking and cleaning kept going, and I expected myself to keep tending them as though nothing else was happening.
So many friends and clients are carrying a lot at once right now too. Broken bones, fractured relationships, disrupted careers, moving homes- all of it, all at once. Shouldn’t there be an agreed limit to how much one person can manage at once?
Maybe you’ve got a lot happening at once now too?
We’ve managed lots before, haven’t we? And we’ve survived it, so you’d think we’d glide on through this lot too, huh? And yet, we forget that we have to remind ourselves of these lessons every time we enter a new obstacle course.
We know what works: Remembering that we have survived hard patches before and that we’ll get through this one. Making room for mistakes, because they’re gonna happen. Letting the small stuff slide, because times like these remind us what really matters. Trusting that the things that aren’t top priority now will wait (or they won’t and probably weren’t actually that important anyway).
All of that is true. All of it helps.
But today? Let’s find some delight.
Not once things calm down. Right now, in the middle of it, while a ray of sun is shining on the plant that is still alive, even though we keep forgetting to water it.
Research shows that small moments of genuine positive emotion help us move through hard stuff faster. Today, for me, that looked like putting on a pretty dress with red lipstick and my favorite earrings, for no reason at all except that it made me feel brave.
That’s enough.
xo, Aransas
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I love this. I love the remedy and the picture. You look marvelous! My mother always told me to get up on time and dress well (and by that, I mean at least pants - no sweats or pajama bottoms). You never know what the day is going to bring. As I walk into wisdom I think - how many times can I say my mother was right!? She also said to have a good coat. It can cover up anything!
Thank you for sharing and yes, that is a lot going on all at once. It seems when the stress adds up in a short time frame it feels harder, different. Sending you good vibes. Love the red lips - therapy starts by feeling better, whatever that is to you