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Elaine's avatar

I think I am a heart listener most of the time. I also think my listening style might change depending on who I am talking to and/or what the situation might be. Is that possible? Thanks for another very interesting conversation.

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Aransas Savas's avatar

Ooh! Yes! I suspect that if you look at those differences you’ll notice some patterns about what shifts your style. How interesting that will be.

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Kristine Santiago's avatar

My immediate reaction is that I am hands-down a heart listener. And that hubby is a head listener. But he may actually be a hand listener! I love this model - thank you for another great episode!

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Aransas Savas's avatar

How did I miss this awesome comment before. My hubby is definitely a big heart listener and it makes life so much easier (though my mom is the only head listener in our house)

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Julie B. Hughes's avatar

I'm looking forward to this one. I'm so glad you both met! Thank you Aransas

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Aransas Savas's avatar

Thank you so much for the wonderful introduction! She is such a gem!

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Beth Lisogorsky's avatar

Enjoyed this one a great deal. Love the story listening exercise in the middle. I found myself remembering some visual facts (less of the “head” facts like speed and where the car came on and whether it was passing) like the weather and feel of the day. It put me right there in the car. I also imagined my heart racing and feeling sunk by the assumptions about the man driving the vehicle (we all do it) and how those were debunked. My facts were feel facts but don’t equate with head or heart. Could there be a fourth h?? And of course solutions mode (hands) I’m all in. I have to restrain that one a lot to pivot to heart which isn’t my go to. Thx for sharing this gem

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Aransas Savas's avatar

Thank you so much for listening! And what an interesting observation! It makes sense that we would internalize some of what’s being said, and explore it through our own experience, especially when the story is told in such a compelling way. That internalizing can lead to powerful sympathy.

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